πŸ“» β€” Dealing with Trauma, Grief, and Sadness in Your Community Starts with You.

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Good morning yeniverse!

I have a few links, per usual, but, the sobering title of today’s issue dulls the edge of excitement a bit; I get it, but, I wanted to take a few moments to talk through the “lost year of 2020” and how we’re all dealing with it, individually and collectively.

A year isn’t such a long time for someone who’s lived a year 80 times, but for my 17-year-old, a year is a long time.

My teenage son has lost his junior year; he lurks in his bedroom, desperate for space from the parents who have been his main source of companionship.

He’s missed debate, friends, the SAT II (they’re gone forever now), school trips, model Congress, and all the other things that make up teenagehood.

Part of the teenage years is the necessity of breaking from your parents.

How do you rebel when the world is such a dangerous place?

Molly Jong-Fast

The reality is that there’s some real trauma that we’re all dealing with, in one form or another. And if you were a front-line worker or someone who was in the medical field, then there’s a good chance that you have even more issues to work through over the long-run.

There’s some real sadness, some real anger, some real disappointment, resentment, bitterness, and everything in-between.

I’m so, so sorry. Last year was an absolute fucking dumpster fire; we’re still all working through it. But, there is hope. There is hope and we all see a light at the end of the long, long tunnel.

I wanted to take a moment and just pause β€” breathe, perhaps β€” and if you can give yourself this small gift then do it, now. Set a timer for 10 minutes. Not too long and not too short:

  1. Set timer for 10 minutes.
  2. Turn off everything and sit, relax, or move; whatever works for you! Some folks “relax” through a light walk around their home or living space. Maybe it’s lying down on your back.
  3. Breathe, in and out. Clear your mind; listen to your body. Observe what’s working, what’s not. What hurts, what needs attention. A little bit of physiological self-care is important. Box breathing is one of my favorite techniques.
  4. If you can’t clear your mind completely then think on this: All the positive things that happened last year, the new relationships that were formed, and the ones that are still forming.
  5. You’ll snap back to reality soon enough, but, this exercise may have helped. When the timer goes off, thank your tool for giving you a moment to reflect and calibrate.

I love you and I want this year to be the best year of your life. I think we can do it together.

To infinity & community,

β€” john


If you’re interested, I’m doing a #bookclub with some of the folks in the early-alpha. If you’re interested in joining us, email me!

The book that we’re walking through is Change by Design.


Here are a few fun links from around the internet:

  1. Tried to buy a house in SF. Nope. All good. Whereby! Overwolf! Saved.
  2. PM strat via Meituan. Remember to have fun. Watch this. Insta-lite. Cohere.
  3. American idle. KingNotes. AirTable wtf. Inside Twilio. Asian american history.
  4. Infinite knowledge. Hackers are winning the pandemic. Cruelty is apostasy.
  5. Product lessons. How you win. Stripe rules the world. $16 takes you places.
  6. This way. Cristiano! Less mail, more packages. Podcasts are up. Premast.
  7. Signal vs China. Ouch. Coinbase + NASDAQ. Personal cloud. Kalendar.ai.
  8. SPACs. LOL. Me too; about time. Ponder. Post.co. Aspiring founders.
  9. Squarespace, omfg. Line. SnapAR. Burn. The world isn’t fair. Rising team.
  10. Brain myths. Never. Buy all the things. Biz / artist success. SO Teams.

Have a great one folks!

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